I think people are most beautiful,
when they aren’t trying to be.
When you catch them
When the light reflects perfectly off their face,
giving them a heavenly glow.
When you catch them doing a silly little dance whilst cooking up dinner.
When they are lying in bed, tangled in sheets,
sleeping. Not having a single bad thought cross their precious mind.
That’s when I find you at your best.
- (via sorakeem)
…or daydreaming about days gone by.
A psychologist walked around a room while teaching stress management to an audience. As she raised a glass of water, everyone expected they’d be asked the “half empty or half full” question. Instead, with a smile on her face she inquired, “How heavy is this glass of water?” The answers called out ranged from 8oz to 20 oz. She replied, “The absolute weight doesn’t matter. It depends on how long I hold it. If I hold it for a minute, it’s not a problem. If I hold it for an hour, I’ll have an ache in my arm. If I hold it for a day, my arm will feel numb and paralyzed. In each case, the weight of the glass doesn’t change, but the longer I hold it, the heavier it becomes.” She continued, “The stress and worries in life are like that glass of water. Think about them for a while and nothing happens. Think about them for a bit longer and they begin to hurt. And if you think about them all day long, you will feel paralyzed - incapable of doing anything.” Always remember to put the glass down.
One of my all-time favorite stress/anxiety metaphors.
Cyber-psychologist Berni Goode talking about Flow on Charlie Brooker’s How Videogames Changed the World.
Flow is extremely important. So, so important.
It’s what keeps some people sane. It’s what drives the world’s most skilled and accomplished athletes, the most intense gamers, the hardcore hobbyists, even many of the most talented artists, musicians and actors - flow is what you get when unstoppable drive meets an unflinching will and unlimited dedication.
Flow is being utterly, truly “in the zone”. And it’s one of the most amazing feelings there is.
This is why finding a sport, or a hobby, or a martial art, or a handicraft, or a new video game, or any skill-based activity that uses focus and requires practice and repetition is so beneficial for things like depression and anxiety and overall mental/physical well-being.
Almost every month at these student recognition ceremonies we have, one of our VPs gets up and talks about how important achievement is, and inevitably lists video games as some kind of evil that prevents people from achieving their ~dreamz~. Honestly, zoning out on video games every once in a while helps keep me sane. Sure, it’s not healthy if you use it to constantly escape from real life, but every once in a while you just need to virtually stab people in the neck for a few hours.
Heeeeey why do we think I’ve taken up playing the guitar? Hello pretty musical anxiety diffuser.
This week on F&W’s Mad Genius Tips video series, Justin Chapple performs an incredible feat: He saves you from ever buying those expensive bottles of dried herbs again! It’s easy. Simply put fresh herbs on a paper towel and microwave in 20-second intervals until they’re dry. Tada! You have ready-to-use, ready-to-store dried herbs in a flash. Watch more Mad Genius Tips here.